Emma Lovewell – author, motivational speaker and fitness coach – recently joined the "Her Playbook" podcast, where she discussed her personal wellness journey and provided lifestyle and fitness tips.
Lovewell continues to break down barriers and be a role model for women in the fitness industry through her classes and book. However, none of that would have been possible if she didn't take matters into her own hands and bet on herself.
While instructing fitness classes for a tech company in California, Lovewell admits she hit a roadblock in her career. She strived to have a greater influence, reach a larger audience, expand on her craft and move on to the next phase of her life. She just didn't know how to get the ball rolling and what that may look like. And that's when she reached out to the CEO of Peloton, and it all went uphill from there.
"I think we have something to learn," Lowell said. "I think that women supporting women and men supporting women, my partner being like go email the CEO, he's like 'what are you going to lose?' You miss 100 of the shots you don't take, Wayne Gretzky quote right there for you, but it's so true. If I don't put myself out there, what's going to happen? Nothing. You put yourself out there, the worst that's going happen is you don't hear anything, or you get a no and then the more you know the better you are."
One of the more challenging aspects of any job, fitness in particular, is staying consistent and motivated over time through adversity. Lovewell shared some insight on what keeps the wheel turning for her on her personal and career journey.
"There are definitely days I don't want to work out, are you kidding? Half of the days I don't want to work out, but there are things that I do – I remember who I'm working out for," Lovewell said. "It's two things; my workout for work and then my personal workout, that's just for me because there are two separate things. For my job, I think of the thousands of people that tune in to take my classes every day and I want to show up for them. I want to celebrate their milestones. I want to be there. I know that people are going through hard times, and I know that fitness and my classes and my words can really help people get through difficult times and get through a hard day and so I want to be there for people.
"Then, I also think about myself and how I feel and what I need physically and mentally. I'm glad people are now accepting and acknowledging that fitness is for our mental health as well. I always say we are much nicer people after we've exercised. I really believe that we need to get our energy out. So, I think about what I need for myself, my mental and physical well-being and for the people around me. I'm a nicer person after I've exercised for myself, and I really believe that we need to get our energy out. If you get some of your energy moving and you get some of your energy out that you can be calmer and so I think about what I need for myself, my mental and physical well-being and for the people around me I'm a nicer person after I've exercised for myself."
Like many other young women, Lovewell struggled with fitting in during her adolescent years. However, once she started to travel the world and experience different cultures, it helped open her eyes to all that the world has to offer, which ultimately helped her embrace her own Asian heritage and be a role model for young women.
"It's constantly a journey because even as an adult, I think we want to fit in," Lovewell said. "It's constantly putting ourselves in these different environments where we size ourselves up, we're always confronted with ourselves. It started at an early age where I was like I'm trying to fit in but I can't. Like the lunch I'm bringing to school is very different from all my friends' lunches, when I invite my friends over for dinner, we're eating very different food than when I go to my friends' houses. At first, I was kind of embarrassed about that. Then, I turned 18 and started traveling when I was in college and I just think travel's so important for people because it allows you to really understand other cultures and witness other cultures, it makes you a more tolerant person and it made me really appreciate how much my mom has gone through. The fact that she immigrated to a foreign country without speaking the language without a big community without knowing a lot of people. She created a home and even after my parents divorced, my mom stayed there and created a home for my brother and I. I just look at her so differently now than when I was a kid."
In her time sailing as a kid, Lovewell crafted the mantra, 'The conditions aren't working for you, but you've got to make the conditions work for you.' She now uses this in her day-to-day life and hopes others can empathize with it on their hard days as well.
"My growth was not linear; a lot of people's growth is not linear," Lovewell said. "It's not every single job is better than the last job. It's the same with fitness. Not every single workout is going to be better than your last workout, but that doesn't mean you shouldn't do it. It's the collective experience that brings us up, so I think that knowing we need to be malleable, we need to be able to acclimate to new situations, things aren't always going to be easy. The growth and mindset, all of that happens in difficult times so you don't grow when things are easy so it's hard in those moments that are difficult and challenging because you don't want to be there but try to find the silver lining."
When reflecting on her past experiences and what she would tell other young aspiring women who are in similar shoes as she once was, Lovewell gave a simple but powerful response.
"Everything's going to be OK, everything's going to work out, don't worry so much," Lovewell said. "But I'm a worrier and I worried all through my adolescence and 20s. I still worry now, but I think even if I told my younger self not to worry, my younger self would have still worried. I know myself and she would have been like, 'OK, girl I'm still going to worry.' But it's like, yes, you know it's fight-or-flight, it's like you take these, you learn from them. When you have questions and when you have doubts, that's information that's sort of helping guide you. So, it's OK to worry and just know that that is part of the process. Wherever you are, you're not stuck there. The only thing that's guaranteed is change, so if you're in a moment of feeling stuck, just bear with it and know that's giving you information to help you make the next choice that you're in. Enjoy the ride, you're going to have ups, you're going to have downs, but just enjoy it. You'll have hills, you'll have intervals, you'll have all of it, but you know what, enjoy the ride."
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